Sitting here, I am, inspired by the tag of a new popular song--Best Part by Daniel Caesar. The tag is simple but not easy. It is— If you love me, won’t you say something?…
Listening to the song, I began to reflect on a very serious question--why do many feel so UNLoved? While, fishing for something deep to say, as the Power of God moves over me, and not just moves but moves me to the point of tears. Yes, writing now, I’m in tears… gasping tears from the overwhelming revelation of the deepest, most profound thing I could say about love or that iconic tag line above; and about the part that asks—“if you love ME” being the substantial reality tugging at my heart and causing such tears of thankfulness.
Most people don’t want to be loved only but rather want to know that someone could love, “someone” like them…I believe true love is best known when we stand in the truth of who we are! If and when someone can show-up despite you (with all your wonders and flaws), just and only for you—with no other gain or interest at heart, except gaining you; that is when you have known the beginning of love! Rachet, lazy, emotional, timid and insecure, bound, busted, bruised, broken, cocky, confidant, boring or brave, you! Experiencing the beauty of knowing the truth about you and knowing and finding love still, is when you have known and felt the power of TRUE love.
The Good book tells us to Love others like we love ourselves? But, why is that so hard? People hardly turn away from themselves. We tend to act on what feels or looks good to and for us. It’s a natural desire. Turning away from one’s self is impossible because at some point we must all face the man in the mirror. However, love requires a decision to die to self. It means giving away your choice to simply be motivated by your own benefits and desires. Love is a call to action. It is the only place where can’t is permissible. Just like we can’t turn away from ourselves, loving someone with Agape Love means loving because we can’t have it any other way. Not all would agree with my next statement but that revelation about unconditional love is what makes Christ’s love so incomparable. He gave away his choice to walk away from an indescribable suffering, all in the name of Love. Just like His Father, who took away His choice to save His innocent Son from a wretched cross, so that Love would prevail! If Jesus did it, then why does loving seem so hard? Most would say, It’s Jesus we are talking about here—the one who was both God and man! And usually that answer would shut down any further line of questioning, but allow me to challenge your perspective if you will?
One response to that age old question about love is found in the core of two very important words that when combined become the necessary element for Agape Love. Those words are choice and action. Love always asks the question—how much? Do you love me, and if so, how much (or at what cost, rather)? Love is two part because like a geometric equation, it asks: if, then when? If you love me, then when or how do you show it? Love will always measure and stretch ones’s capacity and that capacity or ability/willingness is what leads us to the idea of choice and action.
Many people today are no longer used to making choices, let alone following-through on choices with subsequent action to the choices made. Think about it—today we entertain activities and choices like sex and marriage. As a result we have children and families but far too many ignore the natural procession and progression of tending to those choices; which usually results in broken families, fatherless and motherless children and sometimes worse. The problem is because our society has experienced such an indirect invasion of choice, humanity— men, women, and children refrain from making choices, often times except for those that are self motivated; as today’s choices are being stripped by media, politics, and narcissistic influences thereby reducing our sense to operate from conscious decisions and efforts. Instead, we find ourselves responding verses being motivated and prompted by what’s right. These days, choices are made based on the differences of our uniqueness rather than being celebrated because of them. When our choices are met with our selfless action the offspring is kinetic energy that causes movement. That movement when effective is unconditional Love.
Now, I did not write this piece to imply, by any means, that I have arrived at figuring out love. I do know however, that the only way to do the impossible is through the Power that moves. When you cannot find it in your heart to forgive, or make peace or see pass your hurt and pain (that is too often rightly justified), look to the Power. When you cannot see pass the color of someone’s skin or the hardness of their hatred and bigotry, look to the Power. The only way to follow in the footsteps of the Father and His Son is to look to the Power and chose to kill the thoughts and emotions that validate your decision to withhold Love; to be bitter or angry, or rude or silent; as those responses are the adverse opposites of Agape love. Instead, when approached with the choice to fear or doubt or hate or abuse or walk away, show up for your weak husband or wife, mother or brother, child or friend, be the force to offer up that which was so freely given to you… Stretch your capacity and chose love! That will be the action that speaks loudest and says the most… Cuz “If you love me, won’t you say something?”